I feel like in life there are so many obstacles, and those obstacles are tools for clarity, if you choose to keep yourself as the hero of your own journey. What does this mean?

We tend to take life personally. When rejection happens (cue the deep emotions tied to our primal fears of survival, thanks tribal ancestors) we see ourselves as less worthy, and a general lens of scarcity and fear can cloud our vision. We feel left behind, outcast, a failure. Rather than just experiencing failure or setback we choose to become the failure. We doubt. This is why in tribal myths and throughout human storytelling you hear about the reluctant hero.

The same fears apply in romance. We cling to things past their expiration date because it is familiar, and the sunken cost fallacy applies (not to mention in some cases logistical complications like assets and children, etc). We don’t know what else is out there, there is too much competition and complications, it’s easier to play it safe with the familiar. These are all lies we tell ourselves to stay where we are.

I believe, with all human relationships whether it be romance, business, friendship, whatever, that we come together not for life but for growth. Everything has an expiration date at some point, and that is completely natural. Once growth and lessons are learned, experiences exhausted, and things come to a turning point, it’s time to move on. Our desire to be safe and have guarantees goes against the very nature of life which is about evolving. We think a romance is supposed to last “forever”. We expect, in the words of Michael W. Smith, that “and friends a friend forever” (90s crossover hits anyone?) but this just isn’t true. Yes, wouldn’t that be cool if you have friendships and romances and other connections last for your entire existence but life, (especially in today’s changing world with so many different energies coming into the planet), isn’t about that. If you can land relationships that truly manage to evolve on par for life that’s great, but the truth is a large percentage of these relationships are meant to evolve away. Sometimes that happens through break ups, and sometimes physical death.

I feel like one of the most underrated skills in being human is the ability to let go. When life’s inevitable set backs happen accept them, extract the lesson, and move on by letting go. Don’t become failure. Don’t become sadness. Don’t become uncertainty. Don’t repeat your mistakes in a weak attempt at believing you are only worthy of what is familiar. Every person who chooses to be human and especially incarnate at this time is history is truly a hero. Trust you the hero, let go into the natural flow of life’s evolutions, and know that the only constant that never changes is the love that was given and received.